Reaction to upsetting things?

I'm sorry to hear you have self harmed, but I hope you get ped that. I think what you mean by saying "i don't get upset about the actual thing" is that you get upset about 'everything bad that happened' including the 'actual thing.' Sometimes when you are 'supposed' to be bothered by the actual thing, other things that had happened just catch up with you and therefore clouding that 'actual thing'--but it's still there. If what you said has happened in the past as well, then it probably does affect how you react--and the way you react is almost like a defense mechanism. From what I read, I think you should talk to your mom...Hopefully this kinda answers your question.